I started working on this post for Mother’s Day, obviously it’s late but that’s because someone else was early! Our little man arrived almost 3 weeks early, the day before Mother’s Day, what a great gift!
You’ll be seeing plenty of Little Control Freak the 2nd (LCF2) in future posts. But for now back to blogging and the completion of my initial post. It may not speak to everyone, but it definitely was an important thought or aha moment for myself on this adventure as a mom. Happy Belated Mother’s Day, to all the Mother figures out there!
Happy Mother’s Day, Don’t Worry Be Happy
As a human race, we often fall into the trap of “Keeping up with the Joneses.”
As women we tend to compare ourselves to other women, especially celebrities.
As moms, well, we tend to be the hardest on ourselves wondering what we could do more, not for ourselves, but those who depend on us most.
We often say, if I had more money, if I had more time, if if if…
What IF we were happy with who we were and what we have? Let’s take Bobby McFerrin’s advice, Don’t Worry Be Happy.
Now with that said i’m not saying we should settle, as there is nothing wrong with aspiring to reach goals and improve ourselves. Everyone needs to continue to grow, but I’m willing to bet that most moms feeling the pressure to keep up with their neighbors and friends probably don’t have it so terrible. In a time when budgets are tight and many are working paycheck to paycheck perhaps we should focus on some gratitude for what we do have, which will surely teach our kids to not continually want more. After all, if we as moms are jonesing for the biggest house, fancy car, unrealistic fit body, what will our kids be learning? They don’t always take our advice, but they will always learn by our example. Perhaps if we are happy with the life we are living they will be too?
My thoughts aren’t meant to come across as a harsh lesson on one of the most joyous days of the year, but really more to say, Mom you are enough, you are doing the best you can, and most likely providing an incredible home/lifestyle for your kids. They don’t need the latest gadgets and gizmos; they need your love, quality attention (not quantity), support and most importantly a great role model to inspire them that life is about much more than “Keeping up with the Joneses.” It’s about being happy with who you are, self esteem! Kids don’t know, or care, if they aren’t living in the biggest house until you show dismay about it. They don’t know the difference of a stay at home mom vs. a working mom, but they do know quality time. They will live by your example, if you are stressed and unhappy with what you have, they will be too. If you are happy and show confidence about the life you lead, they will be too.
So hopefully, just maybe by the time they are old enough to know the difference, your positive example will be ingrained in their heads to realize experiences, memories, and self-pride/happiness trump whatever the Joneses have. So on this mother’s day, don’t worry be happy! Realize how good the life you live is. All the little people in your house will follow suit and down the road will surely appreciate the valuable life lesson they learned early on.
Great articles about this topic:
The Beauty in not Keeping up with the Joneses
Four Things Your Children Absolutely Do Not Need